This post is the second part to the original post of Approach to a Difficult Conversation – Part 1.
Once you have determined the method of this conversation (see previous blog post) the message is the next thing to consider.
Message
The message is comprised of your body language, tone of speech and vocabulary. All three are part of your message. The recipient will be listening to your verbal and watching your non-verbal communication. Remember non-verbal communication says more than verbal. It’s important that the verbal and non-verbal convey the same message.
How you present yourself physically matters. A firm handshake, good eye contact and steady tone of voice will start your conversation off on a positive note. Avoid crossing your arms. Keep an open posture. You want to convey that you care about the person and are there to work through the situation. The recipient needs to feel they matter and are being listened to.
The tone you use to deliver the message should be your normal speaking tone. The pace you speak should be your normal cadence as well. No need to speak loudly or speak too softly. The recipient should feel this is a normal conversation between the two of you.
Vocabulary
Your word choice should be one the recipient is able to understand. Be careful to avoid words that come across as to snobby or words that are patronizing. Being honest in your message and forthright is the best. No need to puff up the message or water it down. You’ll be respectful if you are polite and direct with your message.
Choosing the right method and presenting the message respectfully will be huge in having a successful conversation. This will show the other person you were thoughtful in your approach. They may have a difficult time with the message being shared, but they’ll feel listened to when you deliver the message considerately. There maybe more conversations to follow because of the message, but you will be looked upon favorably because of the courage you displayed in initiating.
What method do you find affective with people?
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